I've observed in the past few weeks and years, how people generally respond to a crisis, and especially when someone is grieving or anticipating a horrific occurrence.
I want to ask anyone here to imagine this : you've had a bad day, seen something terrifying, witnessed an accident, lost something important and the minute you confide in someone , their first response is : keep drinking tomato juice, it's the cure to everything. Hope it works.
You've lost a friend, you've broken up with someone, you lost your job, you've made a big life decision and the first thing I'll reply is : Don't worry, tomato is the answer. Hope you believe in its healing power.
Keeping tomatoes in a box specially for you <3
It is an easy cop out in place of nothing to say to someone because you may not know how to empathize.
Did you maybe consider that when a person is losing a family member, the last thing they want to hear is that you're praying for them? And somehow that's is the end-all answer to everything? Like my hypothetical end all answer : tomato juice.
Do you feel the magnitude of pain a completely intelligent,young and capable person who is now losing his physical emotional and mental abilities has to go through while listening to your comments about a "prayer" or "miracle" which is equivalent to me replying to you with, yes you guessed it : Tomato juice.
We all are entitled to our beliefs, I respect yours as much as I would only HOPE that you can see that there's a human on the other side hoping for a sense of comfort and support.
And if you pray, feel free to, but I urge you to refrain from constantly informing us about it like a reminder that these are the only words you could find in the emotional vocabulary.
NOTE: Helping someone in the ONLY way we know, may not be what is helpful for them.
Support in ways that might help THEM, even if it means doing something that you don't always do.
And ofcourse if you don't want to, silence is golden.
You can be assured my tomato prayers as a response to anything in the near or distant future. :)
I want to ask anyone here to imagine this : you've had a bad day, seen something terrifying, witnessed an accident, lost something important and the minute you confide in someone , their first response is : keep drinking tomato juice, it's the cure to everything. Hope it works.
You've lost a friend, you've broken up with someone, you lost your job, you've made a big life decision and the first thing I'll reply is : Don't worry, tomato is the answer. Hope you believe in its healing power.
Keeping tomatoes in a box specially for you <3
It is an easy cop out in place of nothing to say to someone because you may not know how to empathize.
Did you maybe consider that when a person is losing a family member, the last thing they want to hear is that you're praying for them? And somehow that's is the end-all answer to everything? Like my hypothetical end all answer : tomato juice.
Do you feel the magnitude of pain a completely intelligent,young and capable person who is now losing his physical emotional and mental abilities has to go through while listening to your comments about a "prayer" or "miracle" which is equivalent to me replying to you with, yes you guessed it : Tomato juice.
We all are entitled to our beliefs, I respect yours as much as I would only HOPE that you can see that there's a human on the other side hoping for a sense of comfort and support.
And if you pray, feel free to, but I urge you to refrain from constantly informing us about it like a reminder that these are the only words you could find in the emotional vocabulary.
NOTE: Helping someone in the ONLY way we know, may not be what is helpful for them.
Support in ways that might help THEM, even if it means doing something that you don't always do.
And ofcourse if you don't want to, silence is golden.
You can be assured my tomato prayers as a response to anything in the near or distant future. :)
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